My name is Kate, and I’m a bad blogger

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I’m a member of two blogging groups on Facebook, Gal Pal Girl Gang and Blogging College (shoutout to all the wonderful ladies I’ve met there!), and nearly all of them seem to be serious bloggers, talking about sponsorships, traffic, media kits, and e-mail lists. It’s more than a little intimidating, to be honest.

Seeing all of these girls aim for the stars with their blogs has made me realize something. I’m a bad blogger.

If you check out articles on how to blog and how to get readers, all of them basically tell me the same thing. I talk too much about my life. I don’t have a niche. I don’t write for an audience. I focus on nothing but the content of my blog, with no thought to building an audience on Facebook or Twitter.

Oh sure, I love interacting with the bloggers I meet in the Facebook groups I’ve joined, as well as my real life friends who have blogs of their own. But I don’t interact with them in the hopes of increasing my stats. I interact with them because they’re cool people and/or because I like what they write about.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not about to espouse a false dichotomy. I don’t think blogging to get traffic is a bad thing. You certainly should blog to get traffic if your blog is a source of income – especially if it’s your main one. God knows also I wouldn’t have all my favorite blogs to check out if people didn’t focus on things like keywords and SEO and whatnot. The Internet would be a much more boring place if you didn’t have people who treated blogging like a business, and, like any consumer, I’m grateful for their time and effort.

But that kind of blogging? That’s not what I’m about.

When I first started this blog, I subtitled it as “the diary of a self-confessed millennial”. And that’s exactly what it is. A diary. It’s a compilation of everything in my life – books and movies I like, the music I listen to, my travels, my thoughts and struggles. I never had hopes of becoming famous or garnering a huge following through this blog. This is simply a record, a testament. There once was a girl named Kate, and this was her life.

Is it so bad to want to blog in this way? If they could read this, I’m sure every professional blog coach (is that what they’re called? IDK) out there would probably want to scream at me, “Yes! This is bad! Why would you even start a blog if you don’t want traffic? Your blog is pointless.”

Pointless to other people, maybe. But it’s not pointless to me.

And that? That’s the idea that I despise with the fire of a thousand suns. Not the desire to monetize and profit off your blog and gain a following, no. Far be it from to judge what other people want. What I loathe is this totally capitalist idea that your blog – your life – has to mean something on a grand scale for it to be worthwhile. Why can’t I just blog because I like it? Why can’t I write posts and share photos just because it makes me feel good to see my words and pictures on the Internet?

Why can’t I do something for the sake of enjoying it? Why does there have to be compensation, whether in the form of money or traffic?

Isn’t what makes life worth living the things you do simply because you find them enjoyable? I don’t receive anything in exchange for traveling to new places or reading books, but I do these things anyway because they make me feel good. I learn a lot, and my horizons are expanded. Similarly, I blog because I learn how to write, how to edit photos, how to process my emotions and handle difficulties. I blog because I make friends through the community. I blog because it’s my catharsis.

I blog because I like it.

I don’t blog to succeed. I don’t care about succeeding. If you’re the type of person who finds it frustrating to keep publishing content only to keep getting lackluster numbers, that’s on you. And honestly, that’s fine! To each her own. It’s just that I’m not that person. I’m already super competitive, fast-paced, and Type A offline – I don’t want to be that girl online, as well. If I get a few comments from people saying they liked my posts, make a few new friends who share the same interests, then that’s enough for me.

Blogging is complicated enough as it is without judging others for how they choose to go about it. There are people who thrive on comments, page views, follows, and other such stats. There are those who simply like to blog for the pure pleasure of writing. Both viewpoints are valid.

My name is Kate, and I am a bad blogger. I’m going to keep blogging anyway.


20 thoughts on “My name is Kate, and I’m a bad blogger

  1. Yesss! I agree so much! I’m in a several Facebook blogging groups too and you’re right, people are so hard core. Lately, I’ve been considering buying a domain. Everyone believes it’s how you make a blog more professional and take it seriously. And I get that, but then I think about how I don’t want to make my blog more professional. I like my blog the way it is! That’s what blogging is supposed to be. There should be a new word for people who blog for careers and take it to new levels.

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    1. If I wanted to make money off my blog, I’d probably buy my own domain. But right now I’m just having fun, and you’re right, if you like your blog the way it is, you do you! ❤ Thanks for reading 🙂

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  2. I completely agree with you!! I think people should blog however they want to, be it for themselves, for the readers, or for income. I don’t think there’s even a right way to blog, sure there are tips and guidelines and what not but in the end, it’s entirely up to us. I admit, I care a bout stats a lot, though not as much as I did when I first started blogging. Back then it was like… all about stats, mostly page views. But through time I’ve realized that I blog for myself AND the people who care about the same things as me, aka books. Sometimes I write discussions that spark so many responses, but somehow I post something that I KNOW won’t get as many respones, yet I still post it because it’s my blog and I want to. I honestly think there’s nothing wrong with you and the way you blog, as long as it resonates with your goal 😀 great post!

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  3. Girl you go preach! I’m a bad blogger as well. I blog for myself! Sometimes I get confused and blog for others but I always end up being selfish and blogging for myself lol. I don’t have a problem with that. 😛 and honestly some of the “big time” bloggers/influencers are a major turn off, they have great content but have awful personalities.

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    1. You know I hear that all the time about famous bloggers/influencers 😦 So many people have told me that, while there are some nice bloggers, there are really a great number of them that are awful in real life 😦 That’s so sad

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  4. Hi there. I checked out your write ups, after I got curious with your comment on my blog “to friends who ask why I love to climb”. Then this one pricked my brain. How do I say this? Can I do more than just hit the like button..haha. Coz I totally agree with what you said here. Like I care if I dont have that traffic thing and I dont rake in money for all my effort. Writing is one of those things that keep me awake and sane in my work station. If my work is read, good, “liked” and appreciated by people, then good and thank you. If not, I’m fine with having seen my words and photography on the internet. And true, I also blog because I learn how to write and express myself. Salute to your stand girl. May I join the “bad bloggers” club? hehehe.

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    1. Writing is one of those things that keep me awake and sane in my work station.

      GIRL, SAME. Sometimes work is just toxic and you gotta unwind. Writing helps me so much with that, and best of all, it even looks like I’m still working 😉 Lol jk 😛

      Welcome to the “bad bloggers” club where we write for fun and meeting new friends and don’t care what anyone else has to say about ❤ ❤ ❤

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  5. Kaaaaaaaattteeeeeee!!!!! 😀 Hahaha. What can I say. Thank you for linking me!

    You mentioned this post because of something I’ve said re: Likes & Follows, so I guess that’s where I’ll start.

    I think, the reason why I put so much value in Likes & Follows was because I lack confidence in myself and my work, so I needed other people to validate it. 😦 I couldn’t tell what kind of blogger or creative I was, so I relied on other people to determine it for me. 😦 It was a pathetic story that eventually led to dissatisfaction, so I decided (just recently) to change the direction I’m going. I guess I had to learn things the hard way.

    That’s why I’m totally TOTALLY in awe of bloggers who couldn’t care less about traffic and/or other people’s opinion. I think it takes a good amount of confidence and/or a healthy sense of self-worth for anyone to not care about what other people will say about their craft. It’s that carefree attitude that draws me to personal blogs like yours. 🙂

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